sexuality
Communion in the Flesh — Sacramental Theoerotics
Read more: Communion in the Flesh — Sacramental TheoeroticsWhat Happens After the Earthquake? After the theology burns… after the shame peels off like dead skin… after desire breaks through your carefully framed doctrines… Something astonishing unfolds. Communion. Not the liturgical kind with polished silver and pressed linens—though that too has its mystery. No, I’m talking about the messy, trembling communion that happens when…
The Illusion of Having a Sexuality — When Desire Unmakes the Self
Read more: The Illusion of Having a Sexuality — When Desire Unmakes the SelfThere Was a Time I Thought I Had One I used to think I had a sexuality. Like a wallet. Like a passport. Like something, I could carry around, present on demand to prove I belonged somewhere. Straight. Married. Monogamous. Male. I carried those labels like holy credentials, like keys to the kingdom. But they…
The Call That Won’t Let Go — When Sexuality Becomes a Voice, Not a Thing
Read more: The Call That Won’t Let Go — When Sexuality Becomes a Voice, Not a ThingSomething Beckons, and I Cannot Ignore It I didn’t choose this sacred path. I didn’t invent the desire. I didn’t plan the ache. I was called. There’s a whisper that stirs in my bones, a summons deeper than biology or identity. It comes like poetry at midnight. Like arousal during liturgy. Like longing that doesn’t…
Embracing the Theoerotic: Where Your Deepest Desires Kiss the Divine
Read more: Embracing the Theoerotic: Where Your Deepest Desires Kiss the DivineWe’ve been taught to suppress the body and it’s needs in favour of the mind, often desire is perceived as a dangerous distraction on the path to enlightenment. But what if I told you that the yearning, that ache in your soul, the Eros that throbs within you, is a direct line to the divine?…
LGBTQ, Theological reflection, Sex, Blogging, Life is my religion, Sacred Sexuality, Pirate Theology, FeaturedTheoerotics!?
Read more: Theoerotics!?Theoerotics … those that know (me) assume they know the answer, those that don’t, aquaintences sometimes ask, or smirk dismissively. Walking away making assumptions of the what, the how and the why. This blog has in the past adressed this topic and failed to uncover it’s dirty secrets. As this text will fail to uncover…
The god of passionate lovers…
Read more: The god of passionate lovers…We love, because we are loved. Eros calls to us from the deepest depths of our worldly existance. Built into the very core of reality is the desire for union, the desire to fall back into oneness. To enter into union is to step, naked and vulnerable into the holy of holies, the inner sanctum…
Theoerotic is going live!
Read more: Theoerotic is going live!It’s about time, isn’t it. Theoerotic – the podcast is coming in January 2024. So why post about it now? Well, I want your input. The plan is to have conversations in the intersection of spirituality, sexuality and social justice. And focussing on the voices from the margins of both faith and the kink/poly/sexpositive community.…
Let’s talk about SEX!
Read more: Let’s talk about SEX!It’s that time again, or perhaps still, to have a meta conversation about the conversation. Today I am having the conversation about god, religion and sex on the Swedish podcast Dirtytalkpodden. And so the questions come, the question that always comes up: Why do you always talk about sex? Barbara Carellas once wrote: “I give…
Pleasure is not gendered!
Read more: Pleasure is not gendered!It is one of the biggest myth in the heteronormative world we live in, that pleasure somehow is gendered. I personally had to do some heavy lifting in terms of shadow work to root out this deep conditioning. Pleasure is experienced though our various senses touch, taste, smell, sound, and through what we see. While…
How the ace and aro community subverts the hetero and mono norms
Read more: How the ace and aro community subverts the hetero and mono normsAs I sit down and write this, I need to start with a confession. It is very hard for me to truly understand what it is like to be asexual or aromantic as it is so very far from the reality I live in. Because of this, I do not fully understand the complexity of…
Notes from the margins….
Read more: Notes from the margins….It is rather ironic to have a middle aged, white, man talk un-ironically of marginalisation. And yet one should not judge a book by it’s cover and rather take in the often surprising adventure that is hidden inside. Not everything is what it looks like, rather perception often misleads as it always carries our bias…
#meetoo
Read more: #meetooThe last couple of days my Facebook feed has been flooded with the #meetoo tag highlighting sexual assault and harassment against women in our society. The thought that “ordinary men” need to be made aware how ubiquitous the problem with violence against women is in itself not a bad one but rather a well intentioned…
Tantra Sessions
Read more: Tantra SessionsGetting your first tantra session or tantra massage can be an exhilarating and beautiful experience. Most people I meet after their first tantric massage have this look of bliss and relaxation while their bodies are at the same time soft, relaxed and yet filled with exuberant bubbling life energy. What is a tantra massage? A…
Getting lucky
Read more: Getting luckyIt’s just been New years eve and many of you have been out at different parties, dinners and get-togethers. Some of you may have had the aim “to get lucky” and some of you may feel that you did. It really disturbs me to hear people say that they are going out, hoping to get…
What is Sacred Sexuality
Read more: What is Sacred SexualityI have an ambivalent relationship to the term sacred sexuality. Using the word seems to imply that there is such a thing as not sacred sexuality or unholy sexuality. To me Sacred sexuality simply means that I hold all sexuality sacred. All intimate moments are sacred whether or not we acknowledge that they are. I…
The sacred paths of relationships
Read more: The sacred paths of relationshipsThere are so many paths one can take in life and everyone must choose their own path. There are career paths, spiritual paths and relationship paths. Personally I think that all paths are valid, however I think it is important that each path is chosen carefully and intentionally. One of the many reasons that I…
Earth, birth, blood and sexuality
Read more: Earth, birth, blood and sexualityIt is that time of year when we celebrate the birth of Jesus. Or at least that is the excuse we have to go all nuts with lights, chocolate, food and presents. In many ways Christmas has become the holiday of commercialism … which in one way is fitting as money is earth energy. But…
Spirituality, Sexuality, Social justice
Read more: Spirituality, Sexuality, Social justiceThis is the teaching shared at the first MCC heart gathering in Malmö on the 6th of December 2015. The Metropolitan Community Church (MCC), also known as the Universal Fellowship of Metropolitan Community Churches (UFMCC), is an international Protestant Christian denomination. There are 222 member congregations in 37 countries, and the Fellowship has a specific…
The naked truth
Read more: The naked truthAnother week has past since I posted “Our sacred journey” and there have been countless of private messages and questions, ranging from: “How dare you?” to “Congratulations, now tell me how I can get there.” Although in every conversation there is this dancing around the question: But are you having sex with others, outside of…
Reclaiming eros
Read more: Reclaiming erosLove is such an important word. Regardless of who you are and what path you follow love is somehow at the centre of things. Love is a many splendoured thing, love lifts us up where we belong, all you need is love! (Moulin Rouge) In the sacred scriptures of the Judeo-Christian tradition there are four…
It’s not about sex
Read more: It’s not about sexIn the past week I have been in countless conversations about mine and Hanna’s chosen path. For the most part it has been deep and meaningful conversations where some parts of our journey and the sharing of it has been deeply healing for someone. Some conversations have been less than friendly and a very small…
How tantra saved our marriage
Read more: How tantra saved our marriageAnyone that was around when Hanna and I met knows that we had such an energetic attraction that generated sparks. And anyone we ever met assumed that when we got married that vibrant passion was carried into the marriage and into the bedroom with us. Nothing could be further from the truth. From our wedding…
The secret to getting what you want in life …
Read more: The secret to getting what you want in life …I am truly blessed, not long ago I had a conversation with a friend who accused me of “wanting to have it all” and in response I simply replied, yes, I do wan’t it all, and you know what, reflecting on it I do think I have it all. In fact the way my life…
What if we could own our inability…
Read more: What if we could own our inability…So in light of my most recent post on the Ashley Madison reveal and the churches inability to provide a positive alternative to the schools sex education (or lack of sex ed). I have been pondering what could we do … when I read this article voicing some of the same concerns and citing a…
Cover that up now please!
Read more: Cover that up now please!I am reading on facebook that 400 church leaders, Pastors and Deacons are resigning of the resent Ashley Madison reveal (article here). People are outraged and indignant. I am confused. Why does it surprise us when we have wrapped up sexuality in so many layers of taboo and shame? Does it really surprise us that leaders…
