Category: Life is my religion
Living Theoerotics — Desire as a Daily Spiritual Practice
After the Flame—What Remains? Desire wrecked me. And then remade me. The bed cooled. The breath slowed. The lover slept. And I was left with something holy burning in my bones—not consuming me, but to illuminating a path forward. What do you do when Eros reveals the divine? You don’t retreat.You don’t abstract.You live it.…
The Ache That Opens the World — The Theoerotic Longing for the Divine
The Ache Doesn’t Leave—It Deepens My body slumps into the mattress, fallen from the cosmic heights of orgasmic bliss. Heart beating, ragged breath, sweat that streaks my heated skin like tears of relief. The event has passed, the euphoria fades … my soul cries out as I am overpowered by longing. After the touch, after…
Communion in the Flesh — Sacramental Theoerotics
What Happens After the Earthquake? After the theology burns… after the shame peels off like dead skin… after desire breaks through your carefully framed doctrines… Something astonishing unfolds. Communion. Not the liturgical kind with polished silver and pressed linens—though that too has its mystery. No, I’m talking about the messy, trembling communion that happens when…
Reclaiming Erotic Love as Theological Resistance
There Are Loves That Rupture the World Some loves come quietly.Others tear the veil. In my life it is often the latter. I have ADHD – It is a superpower that is both a blessing and a curse. For me, it means living life amplified – Go big or go home. Feeling it all, all…
The Illusion of Having a Sexuality — When Desire Unmakes the Self
There Was a Time I Thought I Had One I used to think I had a sexuality. Like a wallet. Like a passport. Like something, I could carry around, present on demand to prove I belonged somewhere. Straight. Married. Monogamous. Male. I carried those labels like holy credentials, like keys to the kingdom. But they…
The Call That Won’t Let Go — When Sexuality Becomes a Voice, Not a Thing
Something Beckons, and I Cannot Ignore It I didn’t choose this sacred path. I didn’t invent the desire. I didn’t plan the ache. I was called. There’s a whisper that stirs in my bones, a summons deeper than biology or identity. It comes like poetry at midnight. Like arousal during liturgy. Like longing that doesn’t…
Embracing the Theoerotic: Where Your Deepest Desires Kiss the Divine
We’ve been taught to suppress the body and it’s needs in favour of the mind, often desire is perceived as a dangerous distraction on the path to enlightenment. But what if I told you that the yearning, that ache in your soul, the Eros that throbs within you, is a direct line to the divine?…
I wish you a very queer Christmas
Christmas is by far the greatest secular holiday. Within Christianity, most Christians would argue that it shouldn’t be; that Easter should be the greatest Christian holiday. I disagree. I think the incarnation is the greatest miracle imaginable. As I have written elsewhere: Christmas is first and foremost a celebration of our humanity. It is the…
LGBTQ, Theological reflection, Sex, Blogging, Life is my religion, Sacred Sexuality, Pirate Theology, FeaturedTheoerotics!?
Theoerotics … those that know (me) assume they know the answer, those that don’t, aquaintences sometimes ask, or smirk dismissively. Walking away making assumptions of the what, the how and the why. This blog has in the past adressed this topic and failed to uncover it’s dirty secrets. As this text will fail to uncover…
The perfect coming out …
Coming out is an important rite of passage for all queer persons. It is the act of revealing to the world who you really are and as such it signifies the end of hiding. I have written elsewhere about coming out as a sacrament: the act of outwardly expressing your inner grace. September 2012 I…
Blood is thicker than water – the birthday reflection
Turning 50 is a divider that cuts through life with the sharpest edge. It calls for contemplation and reflection more than it conjures up visions and dreams of the future. When my father turned 50 he lightheartedly announced that he was now in the “death half” (döhalvan) of life. It is the time when (hopefully)…
Books that changed my life
The catalyst that changes the direction of a persons life can be very differnt depending on who you are, for me it often starts with a thought and from having the thought I would seek out books to learn more and the books would help me to shape or resahpe my reality. This series is…
The god of passionate lovers…
We love, because we are loved. Eros calls to us from the deepest depths of our worldly existance. Built into the very core of reality is the desire for union, the desire to fall back into oneness. To enter into union is to step, naked and vulnerable into the holy of holies, the inner sanctum…
Ten years later – any wiser?
I was sitting on my brothers couch in Skarpnäck, Stockholm with him and his wife. As it often does, the polyamoury conversation came up. For once not the usual very intimate probing questions about bedroom activities. Rather the conversation was about emotions, communication and logistics. The conversation allowed me to reflect on the Journey so…
I’m the man in black!
People ask me why I bother with the church. Why I bother coming back to christianity at all after all that has happened. I think the truth is, first of all, that I never left. My faith has (although shaken at times) always been an integral part of who I am and why I have…
Will the real Sodomite(s) please stand up!
Sodomy and sodomite are two sad words in the english language. The words have been used in the past to describe Homosexual men and their actions. Of course the word actually means “a person from Sodom” and the verb should mean “doing what the people in Sodom did.” So what did the people of Sodom…
Let’s talk about SEX!
It’s that time again, or perhaps still, to have a meta conversation about the conversation. Today I am having the conversation about god, religion and sex on the Swedish podcast Dirtytalkpodden. And so the questions come, the question that always comes up: Why do you always talk about sex? Barbara Carellas once wrote: “I give…
Pleasure is not gendered!
It is one of the biggest myth in the heteronormative world we live in, that pleasure somehow is gendered. I personally had to do some heavy lifting in terms of shadow work to root out this deep conditioning. Pleasure is experienced though our various senses touch, taste, smell, sound, and through what we see. While…
How the ace and aro community subverts the hetero and mono norms
As I sit down and write this, I need to start with a confession. It is very hard for me to truly understand what it is like to be asexual or aromantic as it is so very far from the reality I live in. Because of this, I do not fully understand the complexity of…
Holy censorship or mistranslation?
I was given a book the other day, as I was leaving my talk on SA and HBTQ. Honestly I didn’t expect much but it looked interesting enough. The book was “Holy censorship or mistranslation?” By K. Renato Lings and I learned once again that you should never judge a book by it’s cover. The…
Notes from the margins….
It is rather ironic to have a middle aged, white, man talk un-ironically of marginalisation. And yet one should not judge a book by it’s cover and rather take in the often surprising adventure that is hidden inside. Not everything is what it looks like, rather perception often misleads as it always carries our bias…
The “Devil” made me do it!
Desire is part of who we are. We all have desires. Desires to be succesful, desires to be loved, desires to be touched. Many of us also struggle with voicing our desires. Perhaps because we fear that we are not worthy to have our desires met or perhaps because we fear what other people will…
Eros is calling!
I am watching the first season of Sandman on Netflix and I am taken aback by the powerful message about the importance of hope. Where in the end of episode for “No hope in hell”, the main character Morpheus, dream of the endless beats Lucifer Morningstar by invoking hope as the ultimate power. In the…
After all this time …
Looking back and reaching forward What a journey it has been. This blog has been my refuge and companion through the last 15 years. It bears witness of a circutious trek through the very wilderness of faith, theology, life, sexuality and what it means to be human. So many posts, so many turns, so much…
#meetoo
The last couple of days my Facebook feed has been flooded with the #meetoo tag highlighting sexual assault and harassment against women in our society. The thought that “ordinary men” need to be made aware how ubiquitous the problem with violence against women is in itself not a bad one but rather a well intentioned…
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