Patrik Olterman
The secret to getting what you want in life …
Read more: The secret to getting what you want in life …I am truly blessed, not long ago I had a conversation with a friend who accused me of “wanting to have it all” and in response I simply replied, yes, I do wan’t it all, and you know what, reflecting on it I do think I have it all. In fact the way my life…
I have lost a day …
Read more: I have lost a day …Tears are streaming down her little face, she is furious and full of regret. She kicks and screams and the tears keep rolling. What is the matter honey? I ask my daughter. She looks at me bewildered, like I should know, like I should be automatically in tune with her current plight. She looks at…
Life sings to me …
Read more: Life sings to me …I am sitting at a small cafe looking out over a busy street. The sun kisses my skin and fills me with life, love and power. People are walking about busy with their own lives, their own stories. There is a pulse, a rhythm unfolding before me and I feel the flow.There is a harmony,…
Greater things….
Read more: Greater things….It is interesting when we read the Christian scriptures we are told in the gospel of John that Jesus tells the disciples that they will do greater things than him. Our reaction is immediate, how could anyone ever do greater things than Jesus, the son of god? Instantly forgetting that we to are the sons…
What if we could own our inability…
Read more: What if we could own our inability…So in light of my most recent post on the Ashley Madison reveal and the churches inability to provide a positive alternative to the schools sex education (or lack of sex ed). I have been pondering what could we do … when I read this article voicing some of the same concerns and citing a…
Cover that up now please!
Read more: Cover that up now please!I am reading on facebook that 400 church leaders, Pastors and Deacons are resigning of the resent Ashley Madison reveal (article here). People are outraged and indignant. I am confused. Why does it surprise us when we have wrapped up sexuality in so many layers of taboo and shame? Does it really surprise us that leaders…
Precipice
Read more: PrecipiceDreary darkness tightens around my heart. I feel the waves of lost emotion rolling in over the breakers, salty foam covering me. The full moon peers down from her perch, closer than ever drawing the waters out from the depths. It was a long time since I stood here on this precipice looking down into…
I used to avoid talking about sin, now I love it!
Read more: I used to avoid talking about sin, now I love it!Sin and repentence are two Christian concepts that I used to have an issue with. I was taught that sin was both like a cancer in my soul and that sinner was my identity. I used to actually believe that when I sinned god would leave me and stay away from me and my life…
Differentiating the mature and immature feminine
Read more: Differentiating the mature and immature feminineContinuing this trek exploring the masculine and feminine the time has come to look at the immature and mature feminine. First a caveat: I am not a woman so while it is entirely possible for me to be in my immature or mature feminine it is not how I am wired. Robert Bly writes that…
The divine feminine
Read more: The divine feminineIn the tantric tradition everything hinges on the polarity between the divine masculine, awareness and consciousness and the divine feminine, energy and life force. Everywhere we look we see this polarity between the outward and inward movement, the tension between the two. This is reflected in the Taoist tradition and we see it in pagan…
The divine masculine
Read more: The divine masculineAs I was contemplating the mature and immature masculine yesterday I realised that in our confusion (or perhaps in my confusion, I don’t know how universal this is) we have lost the divine masculine. I have always been under the impression that we had lost the divine feminine but I think maybe I have gotten…
Differentiating the mature and immature masculine
Read more: Differentiating the mature and immature masculineContinuing the conversation about the mature and immature feminine and masculine. I will start looking at the masculine. In todays society we have a lot of the immature masculine going around. In fact there is a public caricature of what the masculine is that is solely based on the immature masculine and so for boys…
The masculine and feminine
Read more: The masculine and feminineIn the wake on my post on feminism a conversation has started whether or not it is worth our time to even talk about masculine and feminine. Here in Sweden at least it’s a loaded topic. There is a large group of people claiming that the differences in masculine and feminine are simply social conditioning…
Feminism?
Read more: Feminism?The other day I attended a beautiful concert at the Malmö Festival, being able to really enjoy the festival rather than work for the first time in 6 years. It was a nice show and the artist on stage had a very clear message of women liberation and empowerment. What struck me is that as…
Suppression or sublimation
Read more: Suppression or sublimationAccording to the Enneagram there are three instinctual centers: Intellectual, emotional and instinctual or mind, heart, gut. In the same way we have many different bodies, a physical body, an emotional body and an energetic body. I could probably list more but lets stop there. Let’s have a look at the heart and the emotional…
Being queer – The censored post
Read more: Being queer – The censored postThis post was originally posted in september 2012 and taken of the blog that same month as requested by the Salvation Army national leadership. I am now reposting it as it was an important step on the journey. This post in itself was an experiment in being open, authentic and vulnerable. The post pushed a…
Have you no shame?
Read more: Have you no shame?In my opinion shame is a disease in our modern society, it is a terrible evil that plagues most people whether they will admit to it or not. The first chapters of the holy scriptures used by all the abrahamite religions paint a beautiful picture of the first humans who where: “naked and not ashamed”.…
What now? Oh, that’s what!
Read more: What now? Oh, that’s what!As I have been at this crossroads for a while now, the dust seems to settle and maybe there is a clear path ahead. It feels scary and thrilling at the same time. I have for some time followed a path led by the divine spirit whispering in my heart the way I should go.…
In my power
Read more: In my powerIt has been a long Journey for me to come from childhood to manhood. And then I am not talking about just getting old enough to call myself a man but to actually come to a place in life where I can truly say that I have come of age, and stepped into my power…
Owning my desire
Read more: Owning my desireBeing Swedish, it has always been quite a challenge for me to really own my desire. In the church desire is in general frowned upon if not outright demonised, unless of course it is the desire for god. All other desire has at least in my mind been a temptation from the dark one. A…
Get lost!
Read more: Get lost!The mind is a curious thing, every time we think we know something or someone the knowledge becomes cemented, static and we file it away for storage. The trouble is that life is change and anything cemented, static is dead. This is why life can only be found in our unknowing, changeable and in the…
The kiss that never was
Read more: The kiss that never wasA kiss that never was burns brightly on my lipsLuscious lips filled with love and lifeBouncy Laughter leaps in my heart and soulPositive bouyancy builds, I soar.Carefully I hide my treasure away and in the darkI longingly I bring it to my lips again and again The kiss that never was.
I can swim!
Read more: I can swim!I have spent most of my life being afraid of my emotions, not consciously as I have always seen myself as a sensitive guy, but rather unconsciously. Instead of feeling sad I have been thinking that I am sad. Instead of feeling joy, I have been thinking I am happy. Living in my head.…
Slow down!
Read more: Slow down!This is my new refrain, Slow down! We are rushing through life (some more than others) at such a breakneck speed that we are missing it completely. Being and Enneagram seven, I can be so preoccupied with whatever is just over the horizon that I completely miss the now. With so many things going on…
I love you, now get out of my bed!
Read more: I love you, now get out of my bed!In most of my conversations with couples or persons in a couple relationship the subject of polarity comes up. It seems one of the hardest things to do is to keep polarity in a couple relationship. Partly this is simply biology. We are biologically programmed to lose sexual desire for anyone we live in close…
